Maybe Social Media Isn’t The Problem

We’ve all seen how popular the topic ‘social media is ruining life’ is recently. My Bloglovin feed is constantly throwing new posts at me about the state of our world and how self obsessed we’ve all become.

I agree to an extent. I agree that taking a break from social media is good for you. We need to breathe, to escape, to switch off. I recently read Rachel Cara Bell’s post on the subject and it really hit the nail on the head. We do need to set time to be us, the real us… not the version of ourselves we spend hours capturing the right angle of before putting several instagram filters on top.

But maybe we’re blowing things out of proportion.

Yeah social media makes us want to have a perfect life and home and that shade of MAC lipstick. And maybe it *does* make us feel crappy sometimes, when we’re still in bed in our pyjamas at tea time with unbrushed hair and panda eyes. But is idolising perfection a new thing?

It’s human nature to want things to be amazing, to have the best home or car or relationship. Before social media took off we still had perfection as a goal, it was just consumed in a different way. We read magazines and lusted over the latest Tammy Girl collection our mum probably wouldn’t buy us. We got jealous of our friend’s holiday photos or when someone in our class got a PS2 for christmas or when our cousin got a puppy even though we’d been asking our parents for months.

And I get it. I do. It’s more in-your-face now. It’s easier for ‘perfection’ to be dangled in front of us without us asking for it. We only have to open Instagram and there’ll be some sort of food/jewellery/makeup/home for us to be envious of.

You can’t go online and avoid it, not really. Maybe that’s the problem. It’s thrust upon us even when we’re not wanting to consume it. It is in our faces unless we actively choose to opt out, to say no to social media for an hour, or a day. We have to choose to avoid this unrealistic idea of perfection.

But the idea of perfection wasn’t born alongside facebook or twitter or pinterest. Nope. People have always wanted to be the best, to have the best things. Perfection is an ideal humans have always strived for, and perhaps we’re using social media as a bit of a scapegoat at the minute.

It’s easy to blame technology for the state of our world, our short attention spans, and our materialistic tendencies. It’s easy to blame social media for the way we, as a society, have become dependant on little gadgets, and have to force ourselves to take a step away from them to notice the actual world around us.

But maybe it’s not all down to social media.

Maybe it’s us.